can exes be friends?

was watching Pierce Morgan interview Cheryl Cole/Tweedy where she revealed she hopes one day to be friends with her ex ashley cole

As she said this I scanned my past relationships, out of 10 boyfriends i am friends with none of them at all, nor would I be to be honest

so i pose the question, can we truly be friends with exes?

turn the page and keep it turned?

"he knows!" panted my BFF

"knows what?" I asked

"about sam!"

suddenly I was transported back to 2005, BFF and I were much younger and slimmer then but if you asked us at the time we would have called you a liar.

BFF dated a guy named Sam for a week, they broke up due irreconsilable differences, looking back sam did have a weirdo mate, but that couldnt be the bffs bf?

yes it was

"he wont look at me, he wont touch me, he wont speak to me I dont know what to do!"

this threw me, surely if the relationship is in the past then its not a threat and therefore shouldnt be an issue, unless your insecure?

after much talking the pair reconciled

but do we ever escape our pasts really?

have we replaced our friends with books?

there was a time we would go round our friends for dating tips, but more and more of us are turning our sad lonely tear filled eyes to the self help section of our local book store.

Dont get me wrong theres a place for a self help book, but dont use them instead of a friend and dont buy half the self help section to find the one writer who speaks to you the most.

One bit of advice I can give, if you are going to follow a self help books advice, find a friend and do it together, Gina my best friend and I followed the book "he's just not that into you" by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccilo and both loved it, and to this day swear by its teachings, and refresh eachothers memories when we wobble on the principles, that way allowing friends and books to work in unison to mend a broken heart and help us move forward into healthier relationships

Too busy for love?

i couldnt help musing the other day, in a world where kids as young as 12 are planning their whole future, do we as a species have time to find the one



we barely have time to wait for a microwave meal let alone a date!

I have a friend who changes her bfs more often than she changes her knickers, and swears she loves eachone

Then theres my other friend, married after 6 months, divorced less than a year later, im sorry but im fearing for the health of love

come cupid get a better aim, or buy stronger bows!