Tuesday 9 November 2010

fantasies- from dreams to reality?

Michael was in trouble, BIG trouble

Michael had always had a fantasy of having rough, kinky, dominatrix, slap me about sex, and he found the perfect submissive guy online and they met.

"the guy was into being forced...." he muttered staring at his coffee

"forced?" I asked fearing I knew where this was going

"so I figured his no, stop etc was part of the act"

"you didnt come up with a safety word?" i asked, feeling like the biggest sex fiend in the world, but it was basic rough sex 101

"erm no"

"go on" i sighed knowing the conclusion

"so i finished and we left on good terms, he was satisfied and wanted to do it again, yesterday the police called, hes accusing me of sexual assault" Michael practically sobbed

I knew Michaels fantasy probably didnt conclude like this in his head, sadly its how it did end, luckily the guy in question was known to police for filing nusance claims so nothing came of it, even if it had, Michael had evidence the man consented.

This got me thinking, should you act upon a fantasy?

Once back when I was younger and more naive 2 guys wanted to have a 3sum with me, it was nice, nothing to write home about. Shortly after the 3sum the couple broke up, and both chased me, so I know how dangerous a fantasy can be.

My advice to anyone who is thinking about fulfilling a fantasy, think about it carefully, chances are its not as hot in reality, even in porn its not that hot in reality. Also cover your back, especially if your fantasy involves pain.

Michael learnt three things through his ordeal, 1. he likes rough kinky sex, 2. always have a safety word and 3. if alarm bells ring regarding the partner, whether it be its their first time, or they seem odd, get in writting the fact they consent to the treatment your giving them, though ofcourse try to make it erotic ;)

Also threesomes are best done by 3 single people, not 1 couple and a 3rd wheel.